We Were Blindsided

 Lenette and I were blindsided, but why? As I have written, we had yet to think in terms of aging. Whatever we did was as if it would continue, and of course, nothing ever does. Even the Sun is wearing down, as is our world. I’m writing about this more because it intrigues me, as does why we never once thought about being old and unable to be what we were.

So, I asked a few people if they ever thought about aging, and their answers surprised me. Most have said they did, and at an early age. I’m gathering their responses and am sure more essays will result from my inquiries. I’m left to ponder why Lenette and I continued living as if we were fixed in time. Neither of us saw us aging, but we did age, and one day we realized we were old and could not continue to live as we had. Reluctantly, we moved from our beautiful home on the Truckee River to a senior living complex.

Aging is inescapable. Suddenly or slowly, and no matter how one envisions the future, aging is the relentless truth. It is the drumbeat that is with us throughout our life, whether we pay attention to it or not. With Lenette and me, it was silent; with others, was it heard, understood, or prepared for? Maybe that is the lesson. 

It will require finances and planning so as not to be a burden to others. They will have their own aging issues. It is the way it is. Life is a series of chapters, and each chapter is its own and not what it was, even if one lives solely in the present as we thought we did.  The hourglass is the perfect example, as we will run out of sand one day. To understand this and include this in our living our daily lives, I now know as wisdom.


Author: Sy Ogulnick

Sy Ogulnick received a BA from UCLA, Teacher’s Credential from Los Angeles Board of Education and completed phase I (Master’s portion) in a Doctor of Behavioral Science program at California Coast University. Sy leased and operated a summer day camp in LA. He and his wife then purchased virgin wilderness land in Northern CA, where they built and operated a coed summer camp. They moved to Las Vegas, NV, and purchased, built and operated a community children’s program for families staying in a major resort casino in Las Vegas. They have created programs for children nationwide that employed many people and in the process developed successful training programs for personnel. This led Sy to lecture on how to train staff and the creating of community within the workplace. Sy was then invited to speak at professional conferences on how best to hire and train employees, which led to his becoming a consultant in the art of improving relationships in a work environment and eventually to his epiphany that “Leaders are the primary problem and the answer to the personnel issues that arise in the workplace.” Sy has written numerous papers on the subject of interpersonal relationships, leadership and power. He has lectured throughout the United States, has been interviewed by the media and has appeared on many radio and TV talk shows

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