I have lots to do, which I consider to be my work, and so my battle with aging will continue for a while. While I know I will lose in the end, as will we all, there are some battles we can all win. Giving in to the inevitable is a sign of weakness and fear, and we must resist that urge as long as possible.
I am thrilled at having discovered the four weapons I have talked and written about. They are so simple yet effective. When I write about them, I feel there is big truth here. Having the four come to me only a few weeks ago at the kitchen table was definitely an “aha” moment.
My challenge is to study and take apart these weapons so that the aging can make the best and most effective use of them. Our caregivers don’t have much to do with this. They may have the power of “place,” But they can do nothing about making sure the “place” is a “community.” The aging person, as I often write, must be proactive. Caregivers cannot do this for them. As they say, you can lead a horse to water, but you cannot make them drink. And we aging people are much like old horses. We shouldn’t settle for “It is the way it is.” So, then, what is the answer?
Dialogue is never easy, yet it is a must when communicating with loved ones and any who are essential to you. Do not lecture or monologue but give and take; listen, work hard to understand, and confirm your understanding. Finally, candor on everyone’s part is what makes it work. Never forget, Pressure of any sort does not make for successful communication but Love, respect, and regard do.
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