The kitchen table, as I visualize it, is an informal place. Consider the difference compared to the dining room table, which is more formal and may have larger chairs at each end. At the kitchen table, all the chairs are the same size. They are all equal.
Because of this, it is at the kitchen table where genuine dialogue should occur. Where a level playing field exists, children and adults become, in effect, an inner circle. Here, children and adults converse person-to-person, not as adult-to-child or child-to-adult. This makes an enormous difference in their relationships.
A relationship that builds a sense of being heard, understood, and responded to, whether in agreement or not, creates trust and regard. This kind of equality fosters love between adults and children the way it should be. In truth, this is how it must be if the child is to grow and become more themselves. Growth cannot be assured in relationships where children conform to rules set by the adults in their lives.
We learned and implemented this way of being with children throughout our careers. It was also our way with staff, which ensured quality and competent personnel. The kitchen table model is one that endures.