The Inner Drive

Being oneself requires an inner drive, and there is no changing It once you are on that road. Along that road, one encounters the mysteries of our life. We do not make it happen, even if we think we do. Others provide the environment in which we are nurtured to be or not to be, to meet and be what others want us to be. We are the clay, and our initial caregivers are the clay makers.

There is a push and a pull that dictates to us, and we are without the tools to do anything about this. Being entirely dependent and knowing (or not) that we are helpless, we must give in to those that rule over us. But what if we are respected and loved throughout our childhood and youth? That love and respect envelopes and invites us to participate as our true selves. Yet how rare is this?

Those key ingredients are the makings of a self and possibly a leader. It is the foundation if one is to become a leader of Leaders. Only by being oneself and grounded in awareness will lead to that end. The leader I am writing about needs to go well beyond themselves to be a leader of leaders. They are driven to be independent and, for some, to build their own organizations.  These people do not give in to other leaders leading them. They must lead themselves.

 Hence, they create their own vehicles for living in the world, including businesses and organizations. It is not for power and control over others but to fulfill their own creative needs. Because of who they are, they also want this for others. For them, abusive use of power and influence is out of the question. While they create the environment necessary for themselves, they also create the best possible environment for those in their life.


Author: Sy Ogulnick

Sy Ogulnick received a BA from UCLA, Teacher’s Credential from Los Angeles Board of Education and completed phase I (Master’s portion) in a Doctor of Behavioral Science program at California Coast University. Sy leased and operated a summer day camp in LA. He and his wife then purchased virgin wilderness land in Northern CA, where they built and operated a coed summer camp. They moved to Las Vegas, NV, and purchased, built and operated a community children’s program for families staying in a major resort casino in Las Vegas. They have created programs for children nationwide that employed many people and in the process developed successful training programs for personnel. This led Sy to lecture on how to train staff and the creating of community within the workplace. Sy was then invited to speak at professional conferences on how best to hire and train employees, which led to his becoming a consultant in the art of improving relationships in a work environment and eventually to his epiphany that “Leaders are the primary problem and the answer to the personnel issues that arise in the workplace.” Sy has written numerous papers on the subject of interpersonal relationships, leadership and power. He has lectured throughout the United States, has been interviewed by the media and has appeared on many radio and TV talk shows

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