Some relationships are more important than others. We may have many acquaintances, but friends and friendships are few in comparison. Friends know each other and, ideally, have dialogue with each other. They are there for each other, which may extend from simply being good listeners to being actual caregivers and protectors.
Friends listen to each other while not necessarily agreeing. They know agreement is not a condition of their relationship. Of course, we all want to be agreed with, but the wise realize that is not a requirement for a working relationship. This acceptance is what separates many who would-be friends from those that are. Sadly, many people who are so convinced they are right about their beliefs, whether about religion, politics, or whatever, cannot accept this. They are unable or unwilling to have a relationship with those with whom they cannot agree. Or, if any relationship can exist at all, it’s a distant one.
The beauty of authentic relationships is that the individuals in them are nurtured to be themselves and are free to express their opinions while being free to disagree. Think if this type of relationship was possible within the family around the kitchen table. Those who experience this are given a gift, making genuine relationships likely throughout their lives.
Yet, there is another side to the story. How many people as children at the kitchen table were not allowed to say a word? The person in power believes children are to be seen, not heard. This scenario is common, as we hear this from many of our senior residents around the dining room table.
Despite a painful and restrictive past, change is possible because one’s voice is never completely erased. It is there if only a whisper. Still, if the individual experiences safe and nurturing conditions, one’s voice can be rediscovered. The importance of real relationships cannot be overstated.
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