Power & the Caregiver

As I understand, taught, and used, power is only necessary to wield when “events dictate.” Otherwise, power remains sheathed and locked away. It is a potentially destructive force that resides in our hands, head, and heart. So, the wise call upon power only when it MUST be used.

A caregiver is in an influential position, as the weapon of power lies in their hands, and the recipient needing care, thus, is vulnerable. One needs, and the other gives. How apparent is this in so many human relationships? Consider the power of parents relative to their children, the teacher to their students, friends with friends, ministers to their flock, doctors to their patients, and bosses (leaders) to their subordinates. Where, in the lives of humans (or animals), is power a non-issue?

Throughout my many roles as a teacher, child psychologist, entrepreneur, and leader of many employees, I had the power to express myself and protect myself and others in my circle of family and friends. Yet, on reflection, I realize I rarely used my power to harm or control another. If I did, it was to protect myself and those close to me.

Being a caregiver is “powerful” because those who need care are either nearly helpless or entirely so. In every instance, however, the caregiver MUST be there for them unconditionally. Whether the care is only partial or to the point of lifesaving, the caregiver does what must be done.

Most importantly, when “events dictate,” powerful people must empower those in their care.

Power, mine to give—To be your best for you and—Good to empower.


Author: Sy Ogulnick

Sy Ogulnick received a BA from UCLA, Teacher’s Credential from Los Angeles Board of Education and completed phase I (Master’s portion) in a Doctor of Behavioral Science program at California Coast University. Sy leased and operated a summer day camp in LA. He and his wife then purchased virgin wilderness land in Northern CA, where they built and operated a coed summer camp. They moved to Las Vegas, NV, and purchased, built and operated a community children’s program for families staying in a major resort casino in Las Vegas. They have created programs for children nationwide that employed many people and in the process developed successful training programs for personnel. This led Sy to lecture on how to train staff and the creating of community within the workplace. Sy was then invited to speak at professional conferences on how best to hire and train employees, which led to his becoming a consultant in the art of improving relationships in a work environment and eventually to his epiphany that “Leaders are the primary problem and the answer to the personnel issues that arise in the workplace.” Sy has written numerous papers on the subject of interpersonal relationships, leadership and power. He has lectured throughout the United States, has been interviewed by the media and has appeared on many radio and TV talk shows

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