Our Power Remains Ours

We never give up our power.  That is, we do not give up our power volitionally; it always lies deep within us, waiting to be uncovered again later.  The trigger may be a random event or the good fortune of being with an influential person who nurtures us to be as much ourselves as possible. Then, “lo and behold,” we become more of ourselves. I believe our true selves are never lost but instead stuffed away, either by force or life events. Then, other life events and the people we meet might be the difference between realizing our self-empowerment or not.

Ideally, the person who nurtures us to be as much of ourselves as possible does this by being authentic. It is not just their talk but their walk and the environment they create. Power and confidence flow out of them because they are simply being themselves. In the process or relationship, they become our “role models” through words, actions, and all-around behavior. They are a “presence” that fosters the environment that gives us our freedom to be and we become.

We become not them but ourselves, unique, one-of-a-kind individuals with ideas and a self to share. The immediate benefits to us and to others are evident. I nurture those important and close to me because I feel good about myself, passing on the opportunity and courage to be oneself to others.

I believe we can win our battle with power that relates us to as pawns by simply being as much of who we really are. Courage is essential if we are not to give in. It is worth the risk one takes to seek out respect and regard from our leaders.

Seeking self my task—Helping you be you, the same—We are not nothing


Author: Sy Ogulnick

Sy Ogulnick received a BA from UCLA, Teacher’s Credential from Los Angeles Board of Education and completed phase I (Master’s portion) in a Doctor of Behavioral Science program at California Coast University. Sy leased and operated a summer day camp in LA. He and his wife then purchased virgin wilderness land in Northern CA, where they built and operated a coed summer camp. They moved to Las Vegas, NV, and purchased, built and operated a community children’s program for families staying in a major resort casino in Las Vegas. They have created programs for children nationwide that employed many people and in the process developed successful training programs for personnel. This led Sy to lecture on how to train staff and the creating of community within the workplace. Sy was then invited to speak at professional conferences on how best to hire and train employees, which led to his becoming a consultant in the art of improving relationships in a work environment and eventually to his epiphany that “Leaders are the primary problem and the answer to the personnel issues that arise in the workplace.” Sy has written numerous papers on the subject of interpersonal relationships, leadership and power. He has lectured throughout the United States, has been interviewed by the media and has appeared on many radio and TV talk shows

One thought on “Our Power Remains Ours”

  1. Sy makes a critically important statement when he says, “our true selves are never lost but instead stuffed away, either by force or life events.” Our true selves are always waiting for us to discover and express, most often with the help of a guiding, caring other person. That is an essential truth of psychotherapy.

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