Being The Caregiver

Having been cared for, for many years, I fully understand Lentte’s commitment to me and her caring for me in many ways. Accordingly, if I need a model caregiver to pattern myself after, she’s right here by my side.

As of now, and for the last few months, I have become her caregiver. She had an operation to insert a device into her heart (Watchman), an operation on her right wrist to free the hand nerves after breaking her wrists earlier this year, and a disappearing back pain. All this AND getting old and not being oneself (or not being who and what she was not too long ago).

Going from caregiver to needing care is a significant change for anyone, but I believe it’s more difficult for women because they have been major caregivers. I hope I have been clear about this in my previous two papers.

My love is going through this, and the good news is that she is coming through it very well and ought to be caring for me again soon. Also, the good news is that I’m in excellent shape, exercise, write daily, and feel great, keeping in mind I am about to be 96 years old. Maybe that’s what the Mexico experience was telling us?

So, what can I say to my readers about being a caregiver? Be open, vulnerable, and firm but soft. Listen and understand as best you can, and at all costs, be honest. Say what you must say but with a connection to the other. Lenette and I remain in constant dialogue. I love her, so how good is this?

If the need arises, drop me a line, and I will do my best to help you either accept care or be the caregiver. Please, never give in or up, but stay the course and be loving because we all are somewhere within us.

I receive from you—you receive from me with love—we need each other


Author: Sy Ogulnick

Sy Ogulnick received a BA from UCLA, Teacher’s Credential from Los Angeles Board of Education and completed phase I (Master’s portion) in a Doctor of Behavioral Science program at California Coast University. Sy leased and operated a summer day camp in LA. He and his wife then purchased virgin wilderness land in Northern CA, where they built and operated a coed summer camp. They moved to Las Vegas, NV, and purchased, built and operated a community children’s program for families staying in a major resort casino in Las Vegas. They have created programs for children nationwide that employed many people and in the process developed successful training programs for personnel. This led Sy to lecture on how to train staff and the creating of community within the workplace. Sy was then invited to speak at professional conferences on how best to hire and train employees, which led to his becoming a consultant in the art of improving relationships in a work environment and eventually to his epiphany that “Leaders are the primary problem and the answer to the personnel issues that arise in the workplace.” Sy has written numerous papers on the subject of interpersonal relationships, leadership and power. He has lectured throughout the United States, has been interviewed by the media and has appeared on many radio and TV talk shows

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