Being Put Out To Pasture

We, the aging, have a choice regarding how we live our remaining years and, possibly, how we die. This is true until we have no choice, and our caregivers must take over. While not easy to talk or write about at any time, it remains a fact that must be dealt with. Almost two years ago, I was under Hospice care, on oxygen around the clock, and ready and wanting to die.  I felt it was all over for me, that is until I realized that Lenette needed me to be there for her as she was for me.

In mere days, I was off oxygen, back to writing my essays and feeling terrific. It was Lenette and her needing me to be there for her that turned my dying into living. In a few months, Hospice threw me out of their program. That experience taught me that love and relationships are powerful motivating forces. They brought me back to life and wanting to live. 

By surrendering to aging, I became someone I have never been. That was what brought me to the edge. The power of our sixty-nine-year relationship pulled me back from the brink. As both student and teacher, I have gained some profound lessons to share. I hope they will strengthen the resolve of old people like me to stick around a bit longer.

First, and most importantly, take on a job with purpose. What I mean here is to find ways to revitalize your passions. Take classes with the intention to learn.  Be an artist, learn a new language, play an instrument, etc. You’ll find your reward in the very act of participation and possibly becoming. This is more valuable than money.

Always remember, it’s not over “until the fat lady sings.” So, get on with it. Time waits for no one.

I was close to what?—I am present now, how good—I think I will stay

Author: Sy Ogulnick

Sy Ogulnick received a BA from UCLA, Teacher’s Credential from Los Angeles Board of Education and completed phase I (Master’s portion) in a Doctor of Behavioral Science program at California Coast University. Sy leased and operated a summer day camp in LA. He and his wife then purchased virgin wilderness land in Northern CA, where they built and operated a coed summer camp. They moved to Las Vegas, NV, and purchased, built and operated a community children’s program for families staying in a major resort casino in Las Vegas. They have created programs for children nationwide that employed many people and in the process developed successful training programs for personnel. This led Sy to lecture on how to train staff and the creating of community within the workplace. Sy was then invited to speak at professional conferences on how best to hire and train employees, which led to his becoming a consultant in the art of improving relationships in a work environment and eventually to his epiphany that “Leaders are the primary problem and the answer to the personnel issues that arise in the workplace.” Sy has written numerous papers on the subject of interpersonal relationships, leadership and power. He has lectured throughout the United States, has been interviewed by the media and has appeared on many radio and TV talk shows

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