About Us

Writing about Lenette brings many emotions and memories; nevertheless, I wish to share a story about us. 

When I first saw Lenette, and before we even spoke, I felt a feeling I had never felt before. I felt that we were one.  Years later, when I did my workshops, people actually thought SyandLenette was who I was—one person, not two.

Two years ago, I wanted to die. I felt I was just hanging around, and this was a feeling I hated. 

I also had breathing problems and was on oxygen 24/7. I wanted to die, and Lenette and I talked about this. We rarely avoided talking about issues like this. So, we decided to see our GP and discuss this issue with her.

The GP literally jumped at me and said I had no right to make the decision of life and death because Lenette and I were one. She had never come across two people who were one to the degree she saw us as. 

That night, I saw Lenette needing me and realized I could not leave her but must be here… for her.

The following day, my need for oxygen disappeared, and all my feelings about dying were gone. I only felt that I could not leave Lenette. It was that clear. 

I’m sorry to say that Lenette suffered terribly over her last few months. I could do nothing for her except to die for her in hopes that my own death would spare her. Yet I could not.

What does one do when there is nothing they can do? That was my dilemma as I watched Lenette fight ghosts, beating the air with her fists. I was as helpless as she was.

Time and circumstances created this reality. Still, when the time came for Lenette to pass, I could not help her. I could not fight her battles, nor could I die for her. Now, I still live for her.  

People say I am better today, and maybe I am, but if I allow it, I still see her fighting. I should be fighting, not her.

The look on her face after she passed told me she was okay now. I wanted that so badly for her.


Lenette sent me a message when she passed.

In shock and a state of loss, I now know it was not her last.

That the look on her face was not an accident.

She was saying to me that she was content.

It was time for her to say goodbye and so she did.

And the look she had was full of love and nothing was hid.

A look I will cherish to my final day. How I love her? What more can I say. 


I miss Lenette today; nothing new. I miss her every day.

I miss her smile as well as the words she might say.

I am so grateful for the look she left me with.

Her leaving me was much too swift. 

And yet I know it was time for her to go. 

The pain she suffered was much too slow.

She fought to go, and she fought to stay. 

It was me why she lived each day.

I look forward to one day being with her. 

I know she is there, waiting for sure.

In time we will be together as we always were. One not two, still being me and her.  


Author: Sy Ogulnick

Sy Ogulnick received a BA from UCLA, Teacher’s Credential from Los Angeles Board of Education and completed phase I (Master’s portion) in a Doctor of Behavioral Science program at California Coast University. Sy leased and operated a summer day camp in LA. He and his wife then purchased virgin wilderness land in Northern CA, where they built and operated a coed summer camp. They moved to Las Vegas, NV, and purchased, built and operated a community children’s program for families staying in a major resort casino in Las Vegas. They have created programs for children nationwide that employed many people and in the process developed successful training programs for personnel. This led Sy to lecture on how to train staff and the creating of community within the workplace. Sy was then invited to speak at professional conferences on how best to hire and train employees, which led to his becoming a consultant in the art of improving relationships in a work environment and eventually to his epiphany that “Leaders are the primary problem and the answer to the personnel issues that arise in the workplace.” Sy has written numerous papers on the subject of interpersonal relationships, leadership and power. He has lectured throughout the United States, has been interviewed by the media and has appeared on many radio and TV talk shows

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