Events Dictate Our Behavior

Stumbled on this piece of insight many years ago while leading a workshop and instantly realized its value, brevity and clarity. It’s a bolt of light and the realization that if not present, a common state of most people, what is missed is the call, the knock at the door, the event that brings us the potential for learning something new.  Also the possibility that this moment’s event brings the answer we have been seeking. Never to be taken for granted, events are experiences that may or may not have important messages that teach. So how do we benefit if not present and open to the message?

The demand that we be present, “here and now” has been around for as long as humanity and what humanity needed to do from its earliest is to survive. Here I refer to hunting to eat or avoid being eaten. Numerous events threatened survival. In fact for prehistoric man it was learn, apply or die. Learning the skills to survive had to be paramount and why almost any event had to be viewed as a “learning experience.” I would guess that if the majority of prehistoric man were like most of us today, many were caught and eaten.  The rare one’s learned to survive and in the process became mentors of sorts. That is, they shared their survival insights gained with others and where initial leadership must have evolved from?

So I emphasize the importance of experience. I call experience an event because I see it as a learning opportunity. Something of lasting value may or may not exist, but how do we know? Like the prehistoric group that seeks to survive and at the same time to protect themselves. “I am the hunter who must also protect me from being the hunted.” Being in an experience often offers valuable lessons to learn and apply. Some offer very little and for others (the example of this day, pandemic) it’s “Do we learn and survive or do we panic and die?”

Our world today is caught in is a major event. Are we learning the lessons it offers or are we lost in worrying about tomorrows?  My plea is to do everything possible to stay present and squeeze any and every lesson from it. This is a time to learn and apply not to run into the morass of “what will be?”

We need to survive this day so that we are better able to meet the morrow and take care of what tomorrow brings. We can’t spend our time worrying and planning. It is this day we must survive and in the process squeeze all learning from this day so that we are better able to survive and even to make better and safer our world. I suggest the following: We live on a relatively small planet. It has limited resources that have to be cared for to the extent that no one goes without, that is: clean water, land that is able to grow food, air that is breathable, health care, education and government that governs for the good of individuals not for a select group. Also, as today so clearly points out: No one is an island unto themselves. Earth is our home and where we live and also where we share all major events. A lesson so well learned today: Much of what take place elsewhere on earth affects every other place on earth. Are we going to be the hunter seeking sustenance for our group, or are we still the hunted, terrified and only concerned for our own survival? Sy“Pandemic” the name————How do we care for our self?————-Being there for each.- 

The demand that we be present, “here and now” has been around for as long as humanity and what humanity needed to do from its earliest is to survive. Here I refer to hunting to eat or avoid being eaten. Numerous events threatened survival. In fact for prehistoric man it was learn, apply or die. Learning the skills to survive had to be paramount and why almost any event had to be viewed as a “learning experience.” I would guess that if the majority of prehistoric man were like most of us today, many were caught and eaten.  The rare one’s learned to survive and in the process became mentors of sorts. That is, they shared their survival insights gained with others and where initial leadership must have evolved from?

So I emphasize the importance of experience. I call experience an event because I see it as a learning opportunity. Something of lasting value may or may not exist, but how do we know? Like the prehistoric group that seeks to survive and at the same time to protect themselves. “I am the hunter who must also protect me from being the hunted.” Being in an experience often offers valuable lessons to learn and apply. Some offer very little and for others (the example of this day, pandemic) it’s “Do we learn and survive or do we panic and die?”

Our world today is caught in is a major event. Are we learning the lessons it offers or are we lost in worrying about tomorrows?  My plea is to do everything possible to stay present and squeeze any and every lesson from it. This is a time to learn and apply not to run into the morass of “what will be?”

We need to survive this day so that we are better able to meet the morrow and take care of what tomorrow brings. We can’t spend our time worrying and planning. It is this day we must survive and in the process squeeze all learning from this day so that we are better able to survive and even to make better and safer our world. I suggest the following: We live on a relatively small planet. It has limited resources that have to be cared for to the extent that no one goes without, that is: clean water, land that is able to grow food, air that is breathable, health care, education and government that governs for the good of individuals not for a select group. Also, as today so clearly points out: No one is an island unto themselves. Earth is our home and where we live and also where we share all major events. A lesson so well learned today: Much of what take place elsewhere on earth affects every other place on earth. Are we going to be the hunter seeking sustenance for our group, or are we still the hunted, terrified and only concerned for our own survival? Sy“Pandemic” the name————How do we care for our self?————-Being there for each.- 

Living In Strange Times

We are living in times that we have not lived in before. Like you we know and have always had the freedom to do what we wanted and needed to do. This is different in so many ways. We see friends and do not touch each other where we used to kiss or a simple hug. We get phone calls checking up on our well being as we do to them. We do not shop as often or do so in different ways.. We are concerned, but do not see or feel panic. These days are simply different and we have no idea on how long this will last.

Thought about writing a brief paper and not sure of what will come of it. So where do I go from here?

I volunteered to do a brief workshop for the residents of our senior complex. The subject is Genuine Dialogue. Hopefully the number of participants will be limited so that questions can be asked by any and all and dialogue results. I’m a teacher so my goal is to bring a bit of awareness to my audience. If it works and people feel they have learned something about their significant relationships and how to make them work better we’ll do it again.   They will know and I’ll be informed. People will want more.

A bit of general information about us residents: We are a 55 year old and up living environment. About 125 apartments, one and two bedrooms, workout gym, heated salt water indoor pool, dining room, bar and lounge, meeting and game rooms and lovely to be grounds. Twenty four hour front desk concierge and bus service as needed. A variety of activities are scheduled each day, but people are on their own to join in or not. As an example Lenette and I are learning the game of bridge and play with guidance frequently. Great game!

Breakfast, lunch and dinner are served and residents pay each month for a set number of points that are deducted based on the meals and food one eats. Lenette and I have breakfast and what lunch we eat in our apartment. We make it a point to have dinner in the dining room so we can and do get to know most of the other residents. Those we’ve met and spend time with are enjoyable and interesting individuals. We are developing into a caring group and the being there for each other is clearly taking place. 

Having built a number of communities Lenette and are intimately aware of the many difficulties common to the building, staffing,  training, organizing and operating a facility and to turn it into a community for the benefit of others. The challenge is clearly make what is built and staffed into the best human environment possible.  

Educated, professional or not people must be respected as the individuals they each are. This means that everyone involved contributes to what is best for everyone. And when I say individual I mean every resident and every employee. Sy

I live here and now————Tomorrow is its own day———–Promises wasted.

Let yesterday go————-The River of life takes it———-Not to be again.