Candid: Is there a better way to be?

How important is your truth? What is your truth? Why is being self so important?

If you are not yourself, who are you? If you do not say what you want to say, what do you say? These questions and so many more like them are not to be taken lightly because they point directly to whether or not we are ourselves in this moment, or we are being what others want us to be. So the question: Are we ourselves and candid or are we what we believe others want us to be? And what do others want us to be; and, if we do run and hide, why?

If we are ourselves we speak candidly, not to harm or to disagree, although this is always a possibility with those we communicate to, but to express ourselves in an open and honest way. We also invite (actually insist) others we communicate with speak their own voice.  In fact, this is exactly what makes our best leaders and role models. They speak their own voice and words and do their best to empower the true voice and words of those they relate to. 

Each of our own truths is too important to hide. On the other hand, if we expose our truth do we jeopardize our place at the “kitchen table,” school or at work? This is a serious problem to overcome and why good leadership is essential to our being open in conversation. Without quality leadership as our role model inviting, seeking genuine dialogue, how do we get there if we feel unsafe and insecure?

A brief story: The relationship I had with the president of the International Hotel was an honest and open one and our program for children prospered. We listened to and understood each other. When sold to the Hilton Corp. they replaced the original leader with their own corporate man. In little time he made it clear that he did not want dialogue with his subordinates, but adherence to his policies. “I raised 3 boys and I know all about children. I will instruct you.” I quit and in one year the children’s program closed. A loss never to be recoverd.

A bad leader does not generate trust and truth. The alternative is being a pawn and someone else. I choose self. It was easy.  Sy

I am truth each day———I seek truth in every way———-Please be only you.  

Author: Sy Ogulnick

Sy Ogulnick received a BA from UCLA, Teacher’s Credential from Los Angeles Board of Education and completed phase I (Master’s portion) in a Doctor of Behavioral Science program at California Coast University. Sy leased and operated a summer day camp in LA. He and his wife then purchased virgin wilderness land in Northern CA, where they built and operated a coed summer camp. They moved to Las Vegas, NV, and purchased, built and operated a community children’s program for families staying in a major resort casino in Las Vegas. They have created programs for children nationwide that employed many people and in the process developed successful training programs for personnel. This led Sy to lecture on how to train staff and the creating of community within the workplace. Sy was then invited to speak at professional conferences on how best to hire and train employees, which led to his becoming a consultant in the art of improving relationships in a work environment and eventually to his epiphany that “Leaders are the primary problem and the answer to the personnel issues that arise in the workplace.” Sy has written numerous papers on the subject of interpersonal relationships, leadership and power. He has lectured throughout the United States, has been interviewed by the media and has appeared on many radio and TV talk shows

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